Important decisions and front row.
- 22
- Dec
Once someone told me that between my 20 and 30 I´ll be taking my most important decisions, decisions that they probably will be affecting my entire life, it was a nice pressure 
. During a dinner last year a friend told me that actually she believed that those decisions were taking by our 25 and our 35. With Juan Cruz, my friend that I was traveling with, we had a very good discussion about why people accept to be with people that they don´t really like, why people accept to stay in a work that they don’t want or why people is living in place where they don´t feel comfortable. All of those thoughts and an email that I received last week made me to write this post.
We always are taking important decisions, but between our 20 and the 35 we decide what to study, usually where to work and who is going to be the people siting in our front row. We concluded that usually are two kind of decisions, between two goods, but one better than the other one, or sometimes, two bad options with one less worse than the other one. When you are between a good and a bad option, and you can clear see both, it is easy to decide between them. With the other cases it is more complicate to realize which one is better (or less worse); so that’s the time when usually people doubt about which one they have to choose. If you add that the water could be not clear to take the decision it is even more complicate. We concluded that some people don´t take the right decision because they are afraid with what could happen in the future and even if they don´t feel perfect they are good enough to be ¨comfortable¨. Please don´t be afraid about future, it is going to depend about your decisions today, if you can not see the direct connection.
With time, the water is going to be clear, so if you have chosen wrong there is always the possibility to say sorry, and to jump to the other option, even if you think is not possible, and it is going to be better than the prime decision that you have chosen.
About people, everyone can’t be in your front row. Life is a like theater so you need to invite your audiences carefully.
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go (uno solo amarra lo que no tiene, no?), or at least minimize your time with draining, negative or not-going-anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are just going downhill or just staying still?
You always learn from people and you also can teach them, but to change people it is quite difficult. Your front row seats are for special and deserving people and those who sit in your front row should be chosen carefully. Everyone can’t be in your front row and that is going to be one of our most important decisions that we can ever take.
Cheers,
nice post, sebas
Thanks for read it Sofia, merry Christmas and happy new year!
Wonderful post, Sebastian. You thoughts are quite in-line with my own.
However, I would contend that we actually make our most important decisions each morning when we wake up and get out of bed. The most important decision we make, in fact, is the decision to fight inertia on a daily basis. Most people wake up and succumb to it because they are too lazy to fight, and that is precisely the reason that most people live mediocre lives. The path to greatness is paved with a daily battle against our own internal laziness, and if we are victorious, we will eventually earn our way into a very elite club of people who have produced remarkable achievements in their lives.
A good friend of mine says that there are only two important milestones in his life–the day he was born, and the day he will die, and that his motivation for all that he does is the 2 minutes before he dies. It is both sobering and instructive to think in that context, and I think it supports your argument about the types of people we invite into our lives and how we spend our time.
Thank you for the post and Feliz Navidad.
Hola Skinner! Thank you very much about your comment and for have read the post. I´m agree with you that we take our important decisions every morning. I also believe taking decisions is like an exercise, if you take decisions, right or wrong doesn´t matter, every day; it is easier to continue doing it when you are 60 or 70. Don’t decide or don´t jump to the right decision after you realize which one is better makes people not happy.
Merry Christmas and happy new year.
Sebas, great post… it’s true we take big decisions from 20 to 35…
What u said about the way of choosing between options and about not fearing the future made me remember a saying i believe is from one of the first persons climbing the everest… He said that u have to choose, and one u made up your mind many mysterious things start to allaing to make your choice correct. (Me sale más facil en español.. decía que solo cuando uno realmente se decide de corazon a realizar algo, recien cuando realiza el “comitment”, recien ahí es como si toda la energia del mundo se pusiera a realizar su objetivo)
I’ll look for the correct phrase and translation…
Anyway.. I’ve made a great decision last month!! I’m going to the World Cup!!! Yes, South Africa 2010! Will u go? I already have plane tickets and the 1rst row match tickets…
Happy new year mate!
Nito
Hello Seba the great philosopher! Yes good reflections! I was a litlle lost when your were speaking about clear water and all the kinds of decisions… but I understood what you meant. And you know what I think: it is good to have some moments to think about what you are doing, where you are going, but don’t think too much! I think it is more important to live rather than to think about your life. And yes, it is true that it is really difficult to take decisions, but there is both your own decisions and your environnment (so the decision of the other ones) that impact in your life. I think you have to enjoy as more as possible what the life offers you, always following your aim, taking care of the people around you. And when you don’t feel good, when you think that your life doesn’t correspond to you, then, you make changes, but always thinking about the others too. Because you can choose your front row, but you have to deserve it also! And I think the nicest thing in the world is being here for each other. That is what I think, but it is always good to know what a great philosopher like you thinks!
Cuidate Seba!! And thanks for those reflections in english!!
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