Yesterday I finished a three days trekking around mountains with an awesome person.

The morning after I returned from Auckland, which was 5 days ago, I took the train to Greymouth, which was an amazing journey, at Greymouth I stayed in duke hostel. At the beginning I was alone in a fourth bedroom, then a girl from Germany came up, meanwhile a crazy French girl left her luggage and finally another one from Germany.

After talking for a while with the girl from France, we merged our plans and we decided to go for a three days trekking and to pancake rocks.

The day after, we woke up and had breakfast, then we started walking to a junction where we were hitchhiking to Blockroll, which was the town where our trekking was starting. The sign that she draw to hitchhike was a big smile saying wherever!. A very friendly and old couple from Tasmania gave us a first ride and a beautiful woman did the last ten km, whom I met again in a bank today and she gave me a beautiful hug when I told her she’d be in this post.

After the introduction, I’m going to describe a little about the French girl who I walked with in two different ways. The typical way to describe someone saying that her nick name was Didi, she was 20 years old, who had a cool boyfriend and originally from a small town from France but who was living in Paris for the past year before she came to New Zealand as an Au pair.

My second way to describe her is as a way that usually people used to use to describe me and it is different.  I have three examples to demonstrate it: First in the beginning of the walk, and because she had much more weight than me I asked her, do you want me to carry with your backpack? she told me no, it is a good practice, however the day after we spread it. Secondly the first morning when she was brushing her teeth she told me: do you know everyone has to brush them teeth and it takes 2 or 5 minutes every day, being one of the first things that we do after we woke up, and there is lot of people who don’t enjoy it, I love to start my days brushing my teeth, was what she told me. Finally, when we were having our second dinner we talked about the feeling of be different and she said: I feel that if I’m in a plane, it is not going to crush because I’m in and I told her I think my case is even a little worse… if the plane crush I know I’m going to be one of the survivors…

I’m writing a very personal journal for when Benja is 10 or 15 years old, I know if we are good friends when he is a teenager we are going to be best friends for the rest of our lives. Juanx did the introduction and I let her to write on it, when she asked me to write her journal, I have no doubt she was special.

Except give us the hand during one of nights, nothing else happened, however we both know how special it was and how unforgettable is going to be…

When she asked me for my contact details I only gave her my full name. She went north and I came south, maybe life meet each other in the future, but we don’t know it.

Make what happened during three days special for a very long time is like putting Paris in a bottle and I don’t know with whom is going to happened but I know I’ll do it.

We always are taking important decisions, but between our 20 and the 35 we decide what to study, usually where to work and who is going to be the people siting in our front row. We concluded that usually are two kind of decisions, between two goods, but one better than the other one, or sometimes, two bad options with one less worse than the other one. When you are between a good and a bad option, and you can clear see both, it is easy to decide between them. With the other cases it is more complicate to realize which one is better (or less worse); so that’s the time when usually people doubt about which one they have to choose. If you add that the water could be not clear to take the decision it is even more complicate. We concluded that some people don´t take the right decision because they are afraid with what could happen in the future and even if they don´t feel perfect they are good enough to be ¨comfortable¨. Please don´t be afraid about future, it is going to depend about your decisions today, if you can not see the direct connection.

With time, the water is going to be clear, so if you have chosen wrong there is always the possibility to say sorry, and to jump to the other option, even if you think is not possible, and it is going to be better than the prime decision that you have chosen.

About people, everyone can’t be in your front row. Life is a like theater so you need to invite your audiences carefully.
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go (uno solo amarra lo que no tiene, no?), or at least minimize your time with draining, negative or not-going-anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are just going downhill or just staying still?

You always learn from people and you also can teach them, but to change people it is quite difficult. Your front row seats are for special and deserving people and those who sit in your front row should be chosen carefully. Everyone can’t be in your front row and that is going to be one of our most important decisions that we can ever take.

Cheers,